How to maintain a happy family?

Most women prefer men with deep voices but not for family relationships, according to researchers from the Canadian McMaster University. But if you do not vote, though still important to create a happy family - says psychologist Peter Demetrius.

How to maintain a happy family?

Peter Demetrius: Girls do not have model looks, can bribe directness and clarity of the message: "I like you. And that's what I can offer. "The message coming from a woman, muddy, the more difficult man to decide on close interaction. Actor Maxim Vitorgan TV and radio, and Ksenia Sobchak on Star carpet before the opening ceremony of the XXIV Open Russian Film Festival "Kinotavr" in Sochi. Strange star couple. What holds together disparate people? With beautiful women are not ashamed to come to the party, but scary to approach her, because all the time the feeling that we are not familiar. Lets proximity and the presence of many unrealistic expectations from a partner. "Simpleton" is more relaxed, accepting myself and partner as they are. They do not pretend, and they do not need to pretend. Even a century ago, the need for joint jurisdiction of life was one of the strong external incentives to stay in the marriage. Now, with infrastructure laundry, pizza deliveries, car-care centers, kindergartens and other services, and men and women are able to live a comfortable life, not together in the family. Bond marriage may be feeling a sense of security. In the first case we are talking about a marriage of convenience, where relations based on a clear contract. Such a marriage is something like a business project, and this is a guarantee of its durability.

In marriages where the spouse is important to a sense of joy, the pleasure of sharing, always faced not only happiness, but also with the pain - they are always intertwined in any relationship. Therefore, such a guarantee of the stability of the family in particular with regard to frustration. Family travel last long if the man and woman take their marriage as a kind of spiritual practice, when a misunderstanding arose or painful sensation is perceived not as a reason for divorce, as well as a new joint difficult task.

We are not supermen

Frequent quarrels spouses useful or harmful. The quarrel discord. In one case, rather than clarify, what is the real problem facing the family, and now each is required, the couple begin to expend energy on destroying each other.

Recipe reliable marriage. Do I have enough to "walk" to the wedding? Absolutely nothing, if the conflict is being plotted on the merits. There is just silence on issues of place, and one of the spouses who dares to explain, marriage brings great benefits.

To distinguish the first type of the second argument can be on the aftertaste: in the first case would be a shame, shame, and fatigue, while the second - a sense of relief and a new level of relations.

They say that life kills love. 

How to avoid it?

It is necessary to pay more attention to their own physical and psychological resources not build yourself out of the all-powerful supermen and compare themselves with other families.

If the spouses feel they are too tired to notice each other, you need as much as possible to draw on the help of all possible relatives and wage labor. This may involve asking awkward and family budget, but believe me, the preservation of the couple relationship is worth it.